Attention Men… The Biggest Mistakes You’re Making With WomenSunday, December 8th, 2013
When it comes to pointing out the mistakes men make with women, the women themselves are often in the unique position of being able to do so most accurately – and, let’s face it, often with great enjoyment. But does it really have to come to that?
Approaching, attracting and seducing women – and eventually establishing a long-term, healthy, and happy relationship – shouldn’t be so difficult. Most importantly, with so much information available, men shouldn’t fall prey so easily to some of the most well-established mistakes made on a daily basis. So what are they? Read on…
They say there’s no second chance to make a first impression and, following that line of reasoning, most of the mistakes that men make with women happen in the beginning stages of interaction – when they first notice a woman and gather the courage to talk to her, whether it’s at a bar, a party, or any other social environment where a connection can be established. Not surprisingly, much of this has to do with body language, which leads us to a behavior known as pecking.
Picture a crowded bar with a lot of noise. You’ve met a woman and you’ve approached her and begun a conversation but it’s difficult to really hear each other. Just the simple way in which you engage in that conversation – through your body language – will determine what happens next.
If you lean towards her to hear what she has to say and then lean away again, lean towards her again to hear her and then away again, you’re pecking. This subconsciously says to a woman that she’s not interesting or important enough to keep your attention and eventually, she will move on from the conversation.
Just a simple change in body language in this scenario can make all the difference. Instead of leaning towards her, turn your head so your ear is facing her. Point to your ear to tell her that you’re having a difficult time hearing her. She will automatically move towards you to bridge the gap. Because women typically don’t lean towards someone they are not attracted to, this simple act of moving towards you, tells her brain that there is an attraction.
So you’ve established a connection and she’s leaning towards you and interested and you’ve begun a conversation. Lucky you! But there are still pitfalls in this stage including:
Building a rapport too quickly
Have you given her maybe too much information? Maybe asking her to meet your parents is too much? This should be an exchange of information; a transfer of emotion. However, be mindful that this is the first of such exchanges; you don’t have to reveal everything all at once.
Talking too much
A conversation is great but when it’s one-sided, that can quickly kill interest. Tell her about yourself but be sure to listen to what she has to say as well. She wants to know that you are interested and that she has your full attention.
There is a very fine line between touching enough and touching too much. Touching her arm casually when she says something funny is encouraging and friendly; rubbing her leg under the table? No.
Body language is a huge key to knowing where you stand with a woman and how best to proceed. Get as educated as possible and there will be nothing left to stop you.
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