What to Say to Her? – Dating and the Stages of InteractionSunday, December 8th, 2013
Daily life has evolved in the face of a technological world; the Internet has changed the way we interact with each other and dating has been no exception. Today, we are often just as likely to meet a potential mate online as we are anywhere else. However, this shouldn’t mean that the art of seduction goes out the window.
The Internet, a bar, a party – these are just vehicles for meeting someone; from there it’s completely up to you and knowing what to say to a girl still goes a long way towards establishing initial interest and the potential of exploring something long-term.
To really understand how a connection is established, it’s important to know the four stages of interaction.
Four Stages of Interaction
The attraction stage speaks for itself – you’ve noticed her, she’s noticed you and there is clearly a mutual curiosity about each other. So now what?
For the average guy, even approaching a woman can be intimidating and they fall into the age-old practice of pick up lines (the Internet hasn’t changed much in that regard). However, most of them fall into the category of cheesy and cheesy doesn’t often get the girl.
But, you also can’t dismiss all pick up lines out of hand; some can just as easily be referred to as ice breakers and, if delivered with humility, humor, and a level of authenticity, they can be a great way to start a conversation with a woman.
Here are some standout lines that may (or may not ) work:
- “Be unique and different, say yes.”
- “There isn’t a word in the dictionary for how good you look.”
- “There is something wrong with my cell phone. It doesn’t have your number in it.”
- “There must be something wrong with my eyes, I can’t take them off you.”
- “Do you believe in love at first sight, or should I walk by again?”
- More pick up lines…
Again, these should be considered ice breakers; a way to approach a woman and start a conversation. Barring that – if you really don’t know what to say – a simple hello, introduction, and an offer to buy her a drink goes a long way.
Watch her body language at this stage. While she may be leaning away from you, that doesn’t mean she’s not interested; she may be feeling you out and establishing whether she’s up for the chase. If you’re lucky, you can easily move on to the next stage.
During the rapport stage, you have made a connection with a woman and there now begins a transfer of emotion. Body language can change considerably in this stage; if she’s leaning towards you, then she’s engaged in what you have to say and there’s a back and forth of information.
This is a critical stage for men and they would do well to understand that honesty is key here. You’ve moved past the first impression and now the things you say to her makes all the difference. Be forthcoming about who you are and what you’re about. Women appreciate an open book.
If you’ve made it to the seduction stage, you’ve now entered an exciting stage. The attraction has been established, you have a rapport with each other and now emotion and sexuality enter the mix. This is the fun part of any new relationship and honestly, the conversation will come more naturally.
Relationship Balance Stage
This, of course, is the ultimate goal – the attraction, the rapport, and all the rest. Most of us want the same thing – to enjoy a healthy, balanced relationship that lasts well into the future. This is where the work starts but it’s good work – fun work – if you understand the core components of a relationship.
Need a Little Help?
We could all use a little help when it comes to finding our match. For more information on moving past the initial stage and really knowing the right things to say to a girl you should check out Joshua Pellicer’s video about the subject. Just follow the link below: