How to Attract Women – There Are a Myriad of WaysSunday, December 1st, 2013
There are a myriad of ways to attract women and depending on the situation you are going to have to use a different strategy.
What worked for you at the bar is not going to work for you at the library, in the grocery store or at the annual work BBQ. In saying that, there are still small lists of golden rules you must apply.
You don’t have to be a catalogue clothes wearing douche
First thing is first. Popular belief states that you have to be handsome, you have to be considered “cute” or “hot” by women, have a six pack, ride a motorcycle, smoke Marlboro’s and not say much, adding to your Mr Mysterious appeal.
None of those things are quite that true. Let me explain.
You can look like Brad Pitt and it will definitely help you in the beginning, but if you can’t follow through with something even remotely intelligent, charismatic or humorous and you just sound like a mongoloid you aren’t going to get anywhere with the ladies.
Think like a reality TV show
If you’re really ugly, you know, like the kind of ugly that makes kids cry. You should use the makeover techniques found on many popular TV shows.
You ever seen those makeover TV shows? Yeah, well give yourself a once over using the technique they use in the shows. They will usually get a haircut, get some new threads and fix anything that is really bad.
Like if your teeth are growing through your upper lip you might want to get that looked at and if you are morbidly obese you need to be realistic dude.
Anything over the top needs to get fixed, period! If you are only mildly ugly, like the rest of us, personal hygiene goes a looooong way.
Don’t forget your toothbrush
The only thing that really and honestly matters in the “looks” department, unless there is something seriously wrong, is hygiene.
Brush your teeth, shower daily, washing everything (ideally before you go out), cut your finger nails and toe nails, shave (if you like the wolf man look, keep it tidy), use deodorant… daily! And try to think of it from her perspective…
Say, for instance, you’re the type of dude that has nose and ear hair which looks more like an Amazonian jungle or like you’re one of those old mathematics professors from the 50’s then you need to think about that too, get one of those nose and ear hair clippers they only cost about 20 bucks and are well worth the investment!
Funny always does the trick
Being funny is probably the #1 thing all chicks look for in a potential mate or life partner. You can look at survey after survey, test results, women’s and men’s magazines, dating site profile listings or just ask your female buddies.
The one thing that will always and has always been up the top of the list is humor. No one wants to be dating or in a relationship with some cold, depressed and moody tool.
You don’t have to be a comedian, but cracking a timeless joke, making fun of yourself (and others), teasing her or generally just being fun is going to put you ahead of the pack and add to your attraction factor!
Add this to your funny bag of tricks
If you can barely pluck up the courage to even say hello to a girl, then you might have a problem being funny. This is what you need to do; practise with your buddies.
Like they say practise makes perfect. Watch what the funny one in your wolf pack does and emulate that around your group of friends, do it constantly, start doing it at dinner, at work, school etc. After a while being funny is going to just come natural to you and you are slowly going to build your confidence.
Just realize that no matter what you do, she is probably going to laugh anyway, especially if you look like an idiot. A bad joke can go a long way.
Reality & Observation
These are probably the easiest styles of humor if you want to call it that. Just talk about things you have observed or things that happen in reality. Say for example you seen a guy fall off his bike, well that’s hilarious and you need to share that with her!
Don’t over think it and go with the flow, just don’t fall over.
You don’t even have to be that funny, just laugh
Too many men think that to be funny or tick the humor box you have to always make her laugh. That’s not true. If you can laugh at a good joke, a funny situation or even at her, it’s going to make you easier to be around. Just don’t be a cheese ball about it. Everyone hates a fake laugh!
Get some GAME!
If you look up “Charisma” on the Internet you are going to get umpteen different definitions and explanations on the history of it, where it came from and it’s all useless jargon at the end of the day.
Charisma is easy. Don’t confuse it, even Homer Simpson has it and he’s fat, balding and stupid!
Charisma explained: It is the ability to seduce and influence people because they like you. Simple!
- Smile, genuinely, not like some shifty salesman. Try to genuinely smile. When you smile it makes people feel good.
- Be confident, most people think that to be confident you have to be cocky or arrogant. Not true. Confidence is two things.
1) Knowing that no matter what happens it’s not the end of the world and
2) practise makes perfect. Practising everything makes you confident. Reading this very web page is already going to increase your confidence.
- Likeable diplomacy, which sounds like some kind of corporate training seminar for managers doesn’t it? What it really is saying is that to be liked you have to be diplomatic. Making other people feel as though you have their back and doing all you can to appreciate their thoughts, opinions and actions even if you think they are wrong. If she tells you she worships the devil, you might want to forget this step and just make a run for it!
- Humble manner, you can act silly, be funny or whatever. As long as you are humble and act in a manner that resembles something ultra-regal, super cool and. Think of a Jedi knight, humble but regal. Get it?
- Allure is basically another way to attract women and so all the things we have talked about so far make it possible. It is the final touch to all of this including charisma.
Be the ENIGMA!
Another way to allure and attract is to use enigma or to be the enigma.
This is probably the secret key to charisma, attraction and everything else.
To be enigmatic you cannot let her get too close to you in the beginning. A good way to do this is when you feel the conversation is flowing and you have her attention, just leave. Make a reason to take off, this is going to drive her insane and have her want to hunt you down and figure you out.
Don’t give her too much of yourself either. Now, if all you do is play World of Warcraft in your underwear and eat tacos while living at your mom’s place, you can still do this.
Think about it like bite sized pieces of yourself. Remember in the movie E.T. when Elliot places the skittles one by one and makes a trail for ET to follow. This is part of enigma.
You have to give a little by little, if you give away too much of your personality (however lacking…) she is going to get “full”, the attraction factor is going to stop and you are basically toast when she figures you out!
Joshua Pellicer is considered a Master in the dating, pickup and relationship scene. If you want to skyrocket your confidence and learn all the secrets on how to attract women, then you need to read The Tao of Badass by Joshua Pellicer.
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